People are
strange enigmas, whose keys are hidden inside, becoming ultimately impossible
to truly figure out. As a writer, I have to try to understand what drives
people by observing their actions, try to assess their qualities from the
outside without being privy to the mental part of the equation. The actions and words seem to be in sync, but
the mind can scream other things, and yet it all makes perfect sense.
Let’s start
by talking about actions. When people feel alone, away from places or people
they know, they will tend to find something to remind them of home or familiar
people. Humans are selfish and will seek to comfort themselves using others to
their own convenience. Some become exceptionally adept at this, and the best
can even talk themselves into believing they haven’t done wrong. Being passive aggressive,
letting things happen all the while telling people exactly what they want to hear
to lead them down the road one chose to ones benefit, that’s an exceptional
skill to master. This is especially easy when the mark is just going to be
close for a limited amount of time, then the façade becomes even easier to
build and maintain, since any holes or inconsistencies can be ignored by the
very finite nature of time. You can call this hooking people, or better yet,
programming. By repeating certain behaviors, reinforcing them with code words
or particular phrases, even using prizes or punishment; something of an
amateurs approach to behavioral psychology.
But the
details, that’s the difficult part of all of this, and here is where many
amateurs lose their footing. See, people aren’t naturally dumb or willing to
believe easily. We all have natural defenses that subconsciously prevent us
from getting conned that easily. That is why this game tends to be a tip toe
between playing the aware person, their conscious mind (I’m not exactly sure if
this would be the correct term, but let’s go with it), and signals to the
deeper recesses of the mind.
It’s easy
to know who would become a master of this art. Many people suffer difficult
childhoods, enduring neglect or hardship. Most can just succumb to these
troubles but the few who do rise; they tend to be made stronger in a way
because of all of it. They will be driven to avoid going back figuratively back
down. Because that’s one of the beautiful things of humans, the adaptability,
the capacity to respond to adversity and to try to grow or overcome it; even if
it’s still less than a fifty-fifty chance, it is truly amazing. Something interesting about this, taking a
quick overview of many successful or driven people, one thing more than a few
do share, is having encountered hardship. No, I’m not saying every success
story is a rag to riches tale, but wills forged under difficult situations can
be harder to break in the face of greater adversity.
It is also
easy to identify what people consider important. We all have tells or certain
little, sometimes unnoticeable quirks, that can show others how we work or what
concerns us. Sometimes it’s as easy as looking at what people favor doing with
their hands, what objects they consider important. From there and with a little
asking around or figuring other idiosyncrasies out, you can create a picture,
though not entirely accurate, but pretty close to the real thing. So maybe
people are actually easy to figure out, but sometimes the problem is that we
don’t want to figure them out. We love the mystery, the unknown; it drives us
in strange ways. We don’t want to accept that most of the times, it just a
simple con game, a little battle that cared little for casualties.
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